Bullied? Confidence discourages bullies. Stand Tall. (Continued from Bullied Kids = Depressed Kids.) You change the way you present yourself and the bullies’ attitude toward you will change too. Change your attitude and approach. Above all, remember that if you are bullied, your confidence will discourage the bullies.
Since bullies tend to pick on the kids that they think are different or weak, the way you present yourself is important.
These are the suggestions I made:
- Approach the kids who are bullying you and look them in the eyes.
- Don’t look down and keep your arms at your sides and your feet about shoulder width apart.
- Stay calm and don’t show any emotion.
- Keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact with the bullies as you do this.
- Tell them to stop the bullying. Say something like, “I know you think you’re funny but you’re not.”
Because I know Eric so well and because he told me a lot about the bullies, I suggested a few more things for him to say. I suggested that he talk with them in the lunchroom where there were adults around.
Confidence Discourages Bullies
Eric did a great job. When he got home, he told me some of the things he said to the bullies.
“What I eat doesn’t make me cool or not cool. I want you to stop making fun of my food. We could have a great time being friends since we like to do a lot of the same things. That won’t happen if you keep up with the jokes about my food. I know you like to skateboard, so do I. In fact, I have a quarter pipe ramp at my house and I can do kick turns, ollies, manuals, kickflips and a lot more. I can do the black diamonds on my snowboard and by the way, I play soccer and kicked 4 goals in our last game. Because I can’t eat the same kinds of foods that you can eat shouldn’t make any difference to you or anyone else. See ya around!”
Then, how cool is this? Eric saw that confidence discourages bullies as he started to leave. He turned and walked away with good posture and his head held high. As he headed for the door of the lunchroom, he heard Jack call. “Hey Eric, wait up. What you eat isn’t a reason for us not to be friends. Did you really kick four goals at your last game?”
Eric followed the suggestions and proudly and respectfully stood up for himself and it worked.
Think about how you can show your confidence to others.