Tag: acceptance

Bullied? Me Too!

bulliedBullied? Me too! To everyone who has been bullied, I get what it feels like. I get that all their mean words and jokes make us feel sad.  Being bullied is the pits. Here is the thing that you need to remember: Bullies are losers and those of us who are different are winners because we have had to overcome a lot. We can show the ones who bullied us that we are proud of our differences and let them know that their unkindness won’t bring us down. At least it won’t for very long but we won’t tell them that part.

This is what happened to me. A lot of kids made fun of me and bullied me. They laughed because I was different. You see, I am a Pembroke Welsh Corgi and Pembroke Welsh Corgis don’t have tails like other dogs. So, what? I think having no tail is pretty cool, don’t you? (When you look at a Pembroke Welsh Corgi from behind, you will see just how adorable we are.) They also bullied me because I couldn’t run and jump and play like the other dogs. They said, “What good is a dog that can’t play fetch? You are no good.” Well, I showed them. And I’ll tell you how.

Guess what? My human mom got me a wheelchair and it is the best wheelchair in the whole world. I named my wheelchair Zoomie because it is so special. Don’t you like it when special things like wheelchairs have names? I sure do.bullied

Now that I have Zoomie, I can run and play and even play fetch. In fact, I can go very fast! Sometimes I go even faster than the other dogs and that is way cool. After I got Zoomie, I went up to one of the kids who bullied me and dropped my ball in front of him. “What’s the matter?” I asked. “Are you afraid that I can play fetch just as well as your dog? Go on, throw it and watch me run.”

When the bully threw the ball, I got it every time. After that, I went up to him and asked, “Don’t you feel bad that you made fun of me? If you don’t feel bad, you should because I am a very cool dude of a dog. And you need to learn that being kind is way cooler that being mean. The kids who are liked the most are the kind ones. Nobody likes bullies.”

If you want to know more about me, you can find my books on Amazon. The first is for older kids and it is The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability and the second one is a rhyming book for younger kids titled The Diary of a Different Dog – Rugby Jones.   They are both pretty amazing if I do say so myself! Oh, by the way… in case you didn’t know, I am Rugby Jones!

 

Stop Bullying – Empathy
Stop Bullying – Empathy

Stop Bullying. If children learn at a young age the wonderment of empathy, bullying will not become part of their lives.

Do any of us understand what it means to be bullied? Maybe we remember being made fun of on the playground or at recess. Some of us were belittled about our grades or achievements. But in today’s world do we really understand what it feels like to be bullied?

Try to empathize with this boy. Someone begins to degrade his character. At first, people don’t seem to pay much attention. Then the he (the target) makes some mistake just like all people make mistakes. But this is different because he is the target. Everything changes. In a healthy world, those who were affected by the mistake would let him  know with constructive criticism. Then he could make amends and make sure that the mistake doesn’t happen again.

Stop Bullying

In a world where kindness, empathy, forgiveness and understanding are not present, the scenario is different. The bully can take a grain of truth and twist it so that those who witnessed the mistake will more easily believe the bully. Then is when a successful assassination of the target’s character takes place.

The target begins to see changes in the people around him. At first the changes are minor and he wonders if he is imagining it and brushes the thoughts away. Some people ask questions and innocently the target answers not realizing that his words will be twisted and used against him.

With the internet and teenagers, the damage is magnified. A text, an email, a post or a conversation can be passed along with great speed. The bully began solo but then more and more get on the “band wagon” and work with one goal in mind. They want to hurt the target for some reason.

To be continued.

 

Rugby Jones’ Mom Claudia Broome

Hi! My name is Claudia and I have a dog named Rugby Jones. I guess that makes me his human mom. Rugby has become my inspiration and my teacher because of the way that he has dealt with adversity in his life.

Rugby suffered a spinal cord injury and lost the use of his back legs. I watched the sadness in his eyes with an understanding that he could no longer run, play or even walk. Like any parent, I tried everything to help him. I finally found him a dog wheelchair.

That was the moment when Rugby’s life changed for the better. Rugby took to his new wheelchair like a duck on water. His enthusiasm and zest for life grew with each passing day. Little did I know that Rugby’s injury and recovery would change my life for the better too.

As we dealt with Rugby’s handicap, I became acutely aware of the interactions between Rugby and those who came in contact with him. Sometimes, there were disapproving and unkind comments that came our way. When this happened I became mesmerized by the effect that Rugby’s antics and friendly personality had on people. He possessed an innate ability to turn negative into positive and criticism into approval.

Those who had scorned the dog in the wheelchair and the woman at the end of the leash did about faces after he approached them with his heartwarming antics. It was as though he spoke their language. “Why are you staring at me? I’m fine. So what if I need a wheelchair to get around? Is your body perfect? Mine isn’t. Please be nice to me. I will be nice to you. I am a very happy dog. I love my wheelchair and I love my life. Don’t you want to be my friend? I sure want to be your friend.”

I have been sharing Rugby’s uplifting story because it is one of encouragement for people who must deal with any adversity. Rugby exemplifies the fact that life is what you make it.

As I speak and write about Rugby’s antics, actions and reactions to people and events, children are delighted. Maybe it is because my words are straight from the horse’s mouth or more accurately straight from Rugby’s mouth.

With my help, Rugby shares his message that teaches hope, courage, understanding, compassion and kindness.

Rugby Jones is my hero and I am confident that he will be your hero too.

Meltdown or Tantrum?

girl-meltdownWe were in the store and saw a child having a meltdown. We felt bad for the child but we felt even worse for the mom who was trying to handle the situation. Not even 10 feet away from them stood a couple who started talking to each other in loud voices about how spoiled the child was.

It got even worse when they began to criticize the mother for not being strict enough with the child. Then they talked about how they would never have tolerated that kind of behavior with their own children. Everyone heard them and then the mother began to sob. It was time to step in and help. After all, that’s what we do!

Meltdown or Tantrum?

GUESS WHAT? We found out that the mom was dealing with her daughter who has Sensory Processing Disorder. She was exhausted and couldn’t handle the constant criticisms anymore. We asked the onlookers if they had raised  kids with special needs? They said that their children were very normal and that using special needs as an excuse wasn’t the way to raise a child.

Have you ever been critical of a parent who was dealing with a child’s meltdown in a public place?

Think about a few things and maybe… just maybe you will be more understanding. A tantrum and a sensory meltdown are two totally different things. A tantrum happens when a child doesn’t get something he or she wants or needs.

A sensory meltdown happens when the child feels overwhelmed!

Meltdown or Tantrum?

Maybe the noises in the store or too many things to focus on send a child with SPD into a meltdown. For onlookers, a tantrum and a sensory meltdown appear to be the same but they far from being the same. For the child with SPD, too many sensory inputs flood the brain and a meltdown is a way to release the pressure.

Have you ever tried to use a funnel to fill a bottle with some liquid only to see that too much liquid causes the bottle to spill over? Have you ever turned on a hose to fill a bucket only to see that the pressure of the water in the hose causes the bucket to spill over?  Both of these situations are only mild examples of what a child with SPD is feeling. Do you feel less critical? We hope so!!

 

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Rugby Jones’ Amazon Books

 My name is Rugby Jones and my books are available on Amazon and the MP3 audio is available right here, right now! How cool is that? I know you think it’s cool too. Guess what? All of my books have received these special awards and that makes me very happy!

I sure hope that you want to get either The “Tail” of Rugby Jones or The Diary of a Different Dog a.k.a. Rugby Jones for a special kid or kids in your life. It’s very important that that I fill you in on a few things about these books so that you will know which one or maybe ones will be best for you.

The first of my books is The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. 

This is what they are saying about it:

Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale is told by Rugby who is a lovable and loving dog with great big ears and a magnetic personality. He tells his story of overcoming adversity with the wit and wisdom of an eight-year-old. Rugby’s antics and blunders will amuse and uplift the reader. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all. Rugby has an opinion about everything and what comes out of his mouth may surprise you!

This book is in color and the images are amazing if I do say so myself. That’s why it is more expensive than the black and white version. It is $18.93 and if you click here you will be taken to Amazon.

We wanted to make the book available at a lower price so the next one is the same book (with a slightly different title) The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability The Wit & Wisdom of  a Lovable Dog with a Disability. (That’s me and you ill see why I am lovable when you read it!) This book is available on Amazon for only $6.92. Click here.

There is also a Kindle version of The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability and it is only $3.49. Try not to be confused with so many choices. Okay? click here

There is also an MP3 audio of  The “Tail” of of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey  from Disability to Ability and that is available right here. Guess what? Parents love it because they get about an hour of guilt free quiet time as their child or children listen to me talk about kindness, acceptance, diversity and working hard! Click here because the price is only$4.97.

The Diary of a Different Dog – Rugby Jones is also available on Amazon! How cool is that? This book won some pretty cool awards if I do say so myself!For the paperback version click here. And for the Kindle Version click here

This is what they are saying about this book!

Filled with colorful and meaningful images that children will relate to and understand, The Diary of a Different Dog is a rhyming picture book meant for younger children.Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale comes “straight from the dog’s mouth.” Rugby is a lovable, loving and kind rascal who understands kids and life. His story will captivate children of all ages as well as the adults who read to them. Rugby’s personality has a magnetism that connects with children in a very special way. Written in his endearing eight year old voice, Rugby offers a convincing message to everyone who reads about him or listens to his story. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all.

Rugby has become a hero for the many children who read or had read to them The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. Now Rugby hopes to become a hero for your younger child too. This is the first book in his new series: Life with Rugby Jones.

 

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