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Kids Worry: School Starting
Kids Worry: School Starting

kids worryKids worry about school starting because they may not know what to do or where to go.  Whether they are popular or not they will still worry.  Kids with special needs worry more because of the complexities that they must face. Whenever a new school year begins, all kids need to know what to expect.

There are a lot of things that parents can do so that their children will feel more confident. Since most schools offer the opportunity for parents and children to visit prior to the first day of school, the task should be an easy one. Hopefully your child’s school does have a plan in place so that it will be a simple process.  When your child’s school doesn’t have a plan, you will have to make your own arrangements.

To illustrate, you can make a call and talk to someone at the school and relate your concerns.  During the call, ask  if your child can meet his or her teachers. Additionally, ask for a map of the school so that you and your child can get to know where things are. Remember that it is especially important for children to know where their classrooms, the cafeteria, locker and rest rooms are.

Finally, one of the best gifts that parents and teachers can do for a child is to find a buddy who knows where things are and one who will be willing to sit with the child at lunch. As we all know, it is demoralizing to have to sit alone. Even more, it offers bullies a good opportunity to make fun of a child.

These things may not seem important to you as an adult but please don’t dismiss their concerns.  The issue becomes magnified when children are going to a new school or when they have special needs. In addition, kids worry about being bullied if they don’t know where they are going or what they need to do.

In addition, parents please talk to your children about helping out new kids. After that, talk to them about bullying and let them know that you will not tolerate it.

Specifically Kids Worry about Things Like:

·         Will I know where to go for my classes?

·         Will anyone sit with me at lunch?

·         Will I be able to find my locker?

·         Will I be able to open my locker?

·         Will I be able to find the rest room when I need to?

·         Will I get on the right bus?

·         Will kids like me?

·         Will I make new friends?

We would love to hear your suggestions as to help children prepare for the start of the new school year.

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Lonely Kid – How to Help
Lonely Kid – How to Help

Do you know a lonely kid who needs a friend? Maybe the lonely kid is your kid or maybe the kid is someone else’s kid. It doesn’t matter whose kid it is. What matters is that you do something to help that lonely kid because all kids need friends.

Maybe the kid is different in some way or maybe the kid is new to the school or neighborhood. Maybe the kid has a learning disability. Whatever the reason is that the kid doesn’t have friends, you need to help in some way. Sometimes adults understand things better than kids do so you need to take charge and do something to help the kid.

How to Help a Lonely Kid

There are some easy things you can do. If the kid isn’t your kid, you can suggest that your kid makes friends with the lonely kid. If the kid is a student and you are a teacher, you can do something to get the kid involved with other kids. Like you could break the class into small groups and do it in a way that the lonely kid would be in a group of kids that would be nice. That way it will be easier for the lonely kid to make friends.

If the kid is your kid, you can connect with other parents and invite other kids over to your house so that your kid has a chance to make friends. If the lonely kid is your kid, a great thing to do would be to get the kid a pet to love. I especially like dogs and you can probably guess why. Dogs are amazing friends for kids. A lonely kid won’t be as lonely if the kid has a dog for a best friend. Dogs get what lonely kids are feeling. Dogs just love and love and they make lonely kids feel less lonely.

The most important thing to remember is that you need to do something to help a lonely kid. You will help a lonely kid won’t you?

Children’s Holiday Needs
Children’s Holiday Needs

I want to tell you parents something about children’s holiday needs because I really get kids. I am pretty much a kid myself, as a lot of you know.

If your kids are facing the holidays without a “whole” family you have to try to understand the sadness and worries that they have.

Sometimes a family isn’t “whole” because someone has passed. Sometimes the reason can be that a parent is away from home for the holidays or sometimes it can be because of a divorce. You need to understand that the first time without a “whole” family is the hardest but even after that it is still hard.

Children’s Holiday Needs

There are a few things that you can to help your children’s holiday needs do so that things will go better. A good start is to ask them to share their concerns and as they do, really listen. Listen to what they say and pay attention to what they don’t say too!

Kids often hold back from sharing their feelings because they don’t want to add more sadness to the situation. It helps so much to have a parent or parents who let kids know that their children’s holiday needs and what they are feeling is okay and in fact expected and very normal. When parents listen and are understanding, kids feel better. That’s the truth!Screen Shot 2014-12-15 at 5.20.07 PM

It’s okay if you are sad about your “damaged” family situation but please for the sake of your kids, don’t be selfish about it. Think of children’s holiday needs  this Christmas Season. They need your help. It’s a great idea to try to make new traditions that will help you and your kids feel better about the different family situation. Let’s say that you always celebrated in a certain way, try to think of a new and different way to celebrate. Maybe inviting other people to celebrate with you could help everyone feel better..

Another really good thing to do is try to involve your kids in the decisions about what you will do as a family to celebrate the holidays. It’s always a good idea for kids to be able to have their friends with them so put out an invitation or say the door is open for all of their friends to visit or celebrate with your family.

If you have any questions just ask. I have a lot of parents and kids who have helped me to be aware of new and different ways to celebrate.

Bully Challengers Rock
Bully Challengers Rock

Bully Challengers Rock because they stand up for the victims of bullying. When a bully is mean to someone, that person is hurting on the inside and maybe on the outside too. If there are bystanders around and they do nothing to help, the bullied kid feels even worse. Do you know why? Well I sure do. It’s because the bullied kid hopes that someone in the group will tell the bully to stop or defend him or her in some way. When nobody says or does anything to help, the bullied kid thinks that the bystanders think that what the bully is doing is okay. That makes the bullied kid feel like there are even more kids that think that he or she doesn’t matter at all. That’s why we want more bully challengers.

Sometimes kids are being bullied and they don’t know it. That is when bully challengers need to step in. The boy in the picture has been mean to the girl on the playground. He even took her lunch one day. Now he is stealing money out of her book bag and she doesn’t know it yet but guess what? I am a bully challenger so I will handle this so she won’t lose her money. AND I am going to tell him just what I think of bullies. Plus I am going to tell an adult about the bullying that has been happening because that is the right thing to do!

Bully Challengers

My friend Grace has put together a puppet show to show you just what some bullies do.Bullies don’t always use words or hurt their victims physically.  Grace is a bully challenger and she is doing what she can to make a difference. Guess what? Grace is only in 5th grade and she is one of my heroes!

I am sure that you liked Grace’s demonstration so please share it with your friends and teachers or anyone who needs to know how much we care! Grace and Leia made another puppet demonstration. Please check it out on YouTube.This is Rugby Jone’s No Bully Zones and we want to help!

Bullied and Ignored in Fosston

bulliedWhen parents are aware of bullying situations involving their children and nothing is being done to help, frustration is heightened. Such is the case with a mother named Sarah Cymbaluk. She resorted to  uploading a video on Facebook to make people aware of the fact that her daughter was being bullied.

Apparently, the bullied child went into the principal’s office more than five times and tried to explain the bullying that occurred on the playground and on the bus. According to the child’s mother, this precious little girl was told to ignore the bullying and all that she was experiencing as a bullied target.

 

Bullied and Ignored in Fosston

Nohner, the Fosston Superintendent says that he was unaware of the bullying situation and that the issue had slipped through the cracks. That is unacceptable… tragic… heart wrenching… inexcusable and downright wrong! He seemed to be exasperated by the fact that Sarah Cymbaluk had posted the video of her children crying and talking about the bullying on Facebook.

Nohner is quoted as saying, “I found out about the situation a couple of days ago and I think it could have been resolved without going to Facebook.” Obviously that is not true because nobody did anything to help this innocent child for more than four months. It wasn’t until the video was posted on Facebook that anyone seemed to care or react.

Even worse was the following statement from Superintendent Nohner, “Obviously somewhere down the line it fell through the cracks. So we need to review our procedures and policies and do a better job articulating to the parents what we’re doing.” How can a person who is in the position of being a school superintendent make an excuse like that? How can people in authority ignore the pleas of an 8 year old bullied child?

Sarah Cymbaluk posted a video of her 8-year-old daughter, Anna, describing bullies at school with her brother, 7-year-old Benjamin. If you watch the video below, you will see the pain that this bullied child is experiencing.

To all mothers… Sarah is an example of a mother’s doing what needed to be done to help her child. If something needs to be done for your child… do something!

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