I want to tell you parents something about children’s holiday needs because I really get kids. I am pretty much a kid myself, as a lot of you know.
If your kids are facing the holidays without a “whole” family you have to try to understand the sadness and worries that they have.
Sometimes a family isn’t “whole” because someone has passed. Sometimes the reason can be that a parent is away from home for the holidays or sometimes it can be because of a divorce. You need to understand that the first time without a “whole” family is the hardest but even after that it is still hard.
Children’s Holiday Needs
There are a few things that you can to help your children’s holiday needs do so that things will go better. A good start is to ask them to share their concerns and as they do, really listen. Listen to what they say and pay attention to what they don’t say too!
Kids often hold back from sharing their feelings because they don’t want to add more sadness to the situation. It helps so much to have a parent or parents who let kids know that their children’s holiday needs and what they are feeling is okay and in fact expected and very normal. When parents listen and are understanding, kids feel better. That’s the truth!
It’s okay if you are sad about your “damaged” family situation but please for the sake of your kids, don’t be selfish about it. Think of children’s holiday needs this Christmas Season. They need your help. It’s a great idea to try to make new traditions that will help you and your kids feel better about the different family situation. Let’s say that you always celebrated in a certain way, try to think of a new and different way to celebrate. Maybe inviting other people to celebrate with you could help everyone feel better..
Another really good thing to do is try to involve your kids in the decisions about what you will do as a family to celebrate the holidays. It’s always a good idea for kids to be able to have their friends with them so put out an invitation or say the door is open for all of their friends to visit or celebrate with your family.
If you have any questions just ask. I have a lot of parents and kids who have helped me to be aware of new and different ways to celebrate.
I need to talk to you about bullies. Hopefully you are listening. I know how busy you are.
Will you please teach bullies that being kind can make you feel good too? Will you help bullies understand that they can be just as happy if they don’t laugh at me or call me names?
I know I’m just a kid but I know about these things. Well, I’m sure you already know all about me. You know how sad I am. You know how alone I am. And you know how afraid I am.
Maybe you could visit the bullies when they have their Thanksgiving dinners and somehow teach them that Thanksgiving should be about being thankful and helping people who are alone.
I never tried to be mean to anyone because that just isn’t right. You and my mom taught me that. They don’t even have to say sorry. I’ll forgive them if they just stop laughing at me and calling me names. Well, I forgive them anyway but it would make me happier if they stopped.
Bullies: Thanksgiving Prayer
When they are eating their Thanksgiving dinners, maybe you could just whisper in their ears that bullying makes you unhappy. That could make a really big difference because after all, you are God and you are very, very important at least to some people.
I’m not important and nobody cares if I die, at least that’s what they tell me. I know you understand how I feel because your son was bullied too.
So God, please help the bullies and their parents understand what it feels like. Maybe you could even tell them about your son Jesus and how much he suffered.
My mom has to work on Thanksgiving but that’s okay because she loves me just like you do. I’m used to being alone so don’t worry about me for now because it’s more important that you help the bullies understand that they are upsetting you too.
I love you God and I know you love me and that sure helps. Oh and I almost forgot to ask you if you will tell the kids who are watching to do something to help kids being bullied? That could make a big difference.
Thank you God.
To everyone who follows us and cares about children who are the targets of bullies, please share this message this Thanksgiving and throughout the holiday season.
Photo: David Robert Bliwas