This post is dedicated to the innocent young lives that were lost today, the young children who lost their innocence today, the adults who died today, the teachers and first responders who placed themselves in harms way to protect today, and all of the people who loved and love each and everyone of them.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Never would I think that I would writing a post about bullies attacking someone I know and love but I am writing a post pertaining to exactly that now. I will call him John.
Friday evening, John was attacked by 4 young men…using the description loosely. He was with his childhood friend, celebrating his friend’s twenty second birthday. As they left the restaurant, the four went into bully mode and John was the target.
John’s friend was talking to a girl a couple of feet ahead, when he heard a commotion and looked back. Thank God he did because he saw that John was on the ground unconscious being kicked in the head and in the ribs by two of them.
John’s friend gave one punch at the ringleader and put him in a headlock and tried to subdue him. He wiggled and got free and then he and the other three ran off before the police arrived. This was like something that we hear on the news but think it won’t happen to anyone we know. I’m here to tell you that it does happen.
Here I am, devoting my days to trying to stop bullying events and bullying with the intention to maim or kill hits home.
John was lucky. After hours in the emergency room and with a dentist and the police, and a cat scan and x-rays, he is doing as well as can be expected. He has a broken nose, black eyes, a lip that is swollen beyond belief, a broken tooth, loose teeth and bruises and kick marks all over his face and body. His teeth will be taken care after he can open his mouth comfortably.
I keep thinking about all of my anti-bullying work and the lessons that I teach. I know I am helping kids who are being bullied but in the past, I never placed much importance on bullying attacks that come out of the blue and for that, I am sorry.
So the message of this post is to tell you to pay attention to possibilities and teach your children to do the same. If there is anyone who is acting strangely, take heed. Do not and tell your children not to take any chances with safety. It is always best to go places with a buddy or buddies. There does not have to be a reason why bullies go into attack mode other than their own emotional or mental issues. The problem is that their issues can affect the safety and well being of others in their paths.
If John’s friend had been an inactive bystander, John could have been killed. The buddy system works but only when the buddy takes action in the event of bullying. The part to remember is that if these two young men had been more observant, the violent bullying event may never have happened in the first place.
Photo: M. Janicki