Tag: self-esteem

School Starting 2017

school startingSchool starting makes kids worry. I mean school starting really makes kids worry! Whether kids are popular, not so popular, attractive, not so attractive, smart, not so smart, abled, not so abled, tall, short, lean, wide, boys, girls, new to a school or have gone to the same school in the past… they are all worried! As parents, there is a lot that you can do to help them worry less.

School Starting: Things to remember

  • Try to be positive about making new friends and try to go at the idea from different angles, e.g. When you go to lunch, maybe someone will have the same lunch bag or be eating the same things as you like. That might be someone you would like to eat with.
  • You can often obtain class lists and set up play dates prior to the start of school.
  • Remind your child about his or her interests and the possibility of meeting new friends with the same interests.
  • Kids worry about certain teachers. The reputation of the teacher can be a cause of concern. Remind kids that some kids don’t like certain teachers while others love them.
  • Kids must be reminded of the value of being respectful and starting off on the right foot.
  • Make sure your child knows that you will be on hand for parent teacher night.
  • Your child’s level of self-esteem will make or break how he or she adapts to the new school year. Help them with their self-esteem. That won’t happen by telling them that they are wonderful.  You are the parent, they know you think they are wonderful.
  • If your child’s behavior is out of the ordinary because of school starting, you may need to think about getting outside help. This could mean talking to a teacher or school psychologist.
  • Sometimes talking about the things you remember about what they are going through helps and sometimes it doesn’t. Take care in going this route. Your child is not you!
  • Make sure that you have all of the necessary school supplies for your child to begin the school year.
  • Take your child to the school to walk around and help them get a feel for the school’s layout. Some schools will provide maps to students.
  • Make sure your child has their schedule with teacher’s names and room numbers.
  • Children with social or behavioral issues are especially at risk because of school starting. Even though it may be difficult, it is better to discuss the potential issues instead of avoiding potential conflict by avoiding the issues. Pick your timing and then pleasantly mention school starting and ask questions about how they feel. Don’t ever negate or minimize their feelings.
  • School is about academic success but it is also about fun. When kids experience behavior issues during a school year, it is often easy to make those the focus because of school starting. Remember the times that your   child had success and remind them of those times.
  • As you prepare for back-to-school time, use strategies to remind kids of the fun parts about school to help activate pleasant memories and reduce anxiety. There are a lot of funny school movies and everyone has a funny story to tell.
  • It is very important to get your child acclimated to a new schedule because of school starting. Change bed times and meal times to match the times that are required because of school starting.

School starting can be exciting and rewarding in addition to triggering anxiety. FOCUS ON THE POSITIVE WITH YOUR CHILD!

 

 

Bullied? Confidence Discourages Bullies: Stand Tall

Confidence Discourages BulliesBullied? Confidence discourages bullies. Stand Tall. (Continued from Bullied Kids = Depressed Kids.) You change the way you present yourself and the bullies’ attitude toward you will change too. Change your attitude and approach. Above all, remember that  if you are bullied, your confidence will discourage the bullies.

Since bullies tend to pick on the kids that they think are different or weak, the way you present yourself is important.

These are the suggestions I made:

  • Approach the kids who are bullying you and look them in the eyes.
  • Don’t look down and keep your arms at your sides and your feet about shoulder width apart.
  • Stay calm and don’t show any emotion.
  • Keep your eyes open and maintain eye contact with the bullies as you do this.
  • Tell them to stop the bullying. Say something like, “I know you think you’re funny but you’re not.”

Because I know Eric so well and because he told me a lot about the bullies, I suggested a few more things for him to say.  I suggested that he talk with them in the lunchroom where there were adults around.

Confidence Discourages Bullies

Eric did a great job. When he got home, he told me some of the things he said to the bullies.

“What I eat doesn’t make me cool or not cool. I want you to stop making fun of my food. We could have a great time being friends since we like to do a lot of the same things. That won’t happen if you keep up with the jokes about my food.  I know you like to skateboard, so do I. In fact, I have a quarter pipe ramp at my house and I can do kick turns, ollies, manuals, kickflips and a lot more. I can do the black diamonds on my snowboard and by the way, I play soccer and kicked 4 goals in our last game. Because I can’t eat the same kinds of foods that you can eat shouldn’t make any difference to you or anyone else. See ya around!”

Then, how cool is this? Eric saw that confidence discourages bullies as he started to leave. He turned and walked away with good posture and his head held high. As he headed for the door of the lunchroom, he heard Jack call. “Hey Eric, wait up. What you eat isn’t a reason for us not to be friends. Did you really kick four goals at your last game?”

Eric followed the suggestions and proudly and respectfully stood up for himself and it worked.

Think about how you can show your confidence to others.

Bullied Kids = Depressed Kids – I Can Help Build Self-Esteem

bulliedBullied kids are depressed kids and I know that too well. Do you want to know why? Well, I’ll tell you. I have been bullied a lot and I know how it feels. It’s all about being different in some way. Kids who are like all the other kids usually are not bullied. You would be surprised at how even a little difference can cause unkind kids to bully. Parents may not have any idea that there is something about their child that can make him or her a target of bullying.

Here is an example of what I am saying. Oh! Before I forget! If you are new here, you might not know that I am a dog. In fact, I am a Pembroke Welsh Corgi.  That makes me very different because I don’t have a tail like other dogs. Pembroke Welsh Corgis don’t have tails! I bet you didn’t know that!

There is another reason that I understand bullying. I use a wheelchair because I had a bad accident. If you are interested in finding out more about me, you can look here.

Now that you know a little about me, I will go on with what I started to say.

The other day, my mom and I were visiting some friends that were having a pool party. My friend was very sad and at first, he didn’t tell me why. Then he “spilled” everything to me when the adults went into the house. Because we were alone, he told me that he was being bullied at school. It was hard to believe because he is one very cool kid. He is smart, handsome, athletic and very kind.

Bullied Kids = Depressed Kids – I Can Help Build Self-Esteem

He told me that he was being bullied at lunchtime because of what he ate. He has a sensitivity to some foods that have wheat, sugar, and dyes. That means he can’t have sandwiches or sweet or colored foods. His mom packs his lunch with nuts, meats, vegetables, fruits and stuff like that. He was very depressed and down in the dumps about it.

We talked for a long time and I listened to the things he had to say. Because I understand bullying, there were some ideas I shared with him to help his situation.  I could see that he was not as sad after we talked. And I was sure he would feel better after he saw the bullying kids the next time.

Please come back to find out what I said and how the kids at school reacted.

Carol Dweck: Hero

Carol DweckCarol Dweck is our new hero because she really gets it! My older human sister is reading lots of things about her because she wants to be a great teacher someday. My sister told me some of the things that Carol Dweck has said and guess what? We think about a lot of things the same way. How cool is that?

Carol Dweck explains to parents and teachers that some kids who have challenges in their lives manage to succeed while others don’t.  She uses cool words that mean a lot. She says that kids who try hard and persevere have something called a growth mindset. Hmmm… I guess I have a growth mindset too!

As you know, I am very smart but Carol Dweck is way smarter than I am. That’s because I am just a dog and she is a doctor. She said, “…when students had more of a growth mindset, they held the view that talents and abilities could be developed and that challenges were the way to do it.

Carol Dweck

Learning something new, something hard, sticking to things—that’s how you get smarter.” The cool thing is that I have said the same kinds of things about how I got so smart here on my blog and in my books. Well, except that I have said them in a way that kids understand.  How cool is that? For an example, in The “Tail” of Rugby Jones: A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability, I said, “There are so many things that make people and animals different and that is a good thing. Just remember that you might need something like Zoomie to help you work hard and remind you to believe in yourself.”

My human mom taught me that, it’s so important to let children understand that failure is okay. Failure and mistakes are crucial for success to become a reality. Children need their parents to believe in their abilities, to be proud of their efforts and teach them how to learn from the negative events in their lives.

So now you know why Carol Dweck is our new hero. She gets it!

Rugby Jones’ Amazon Books

 My name is Rugby Jones and my books are available on Amazon and the MP3 audio is available right here, right now! How cool is that? I know you think it’s cool too. Guess what? All of my books have received these special awards and that makes me very happy!

I sure hope that you want to get either The “Tail” of Rugby Jones or The Diary of a Different Dog a.k.a. Rugby Jones for a special kid or kids in your life. It’s very important that that I fill you in on a few things about these books so that you will know which one or maybe ones will be best for you.

The first of my books is The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. 

This is what they are saying about it:

Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale is told by Rugby who is a lovable and loving dog with great big ears and a magnetic personality. He tells his story of overcoming adversity with the wit and wisdom of an eight-year-old. Rugby’s antics and blunders will amuse and uplift the reader. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all. Rugby has an opinion about everything and what comes out of his mouth may surprise you!

This book is in color and the images are amazing if I do say so myself. That’s why it is more expensive than the black and white version. It is $18.93 and if you click here you will be taken to Amazon.

We wanted to make the book available at a lower price so the next one is the same book (with a slightly different title) The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability The Wit & Wisdom of  a Lovable Dog with a Disability. (That’s me and you ill see why I am lovable when you read it!) This book is available on Amazon for only $6.92. Click here.

There is also a Kindle version of The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability and it is only $3.49. Try not to be confused with so many choices. Okay? click here

There is also an MP3 audio of  The “Tail” of of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey  from Disability to Ability and that is available right here. Guess what? Parents love it because they get about an hour of guilt free quiet time as their child or children listen to me talk about kindness, acceptance, diversity and working hard! Click here because the price is only$4.97.

The Diary of a Different Dog – Rugby Jones is also available on Amazon! How cool is that? This book won some pretty cool awards if I do say so myself!For the paperback version click here. And for the Kindle Version click here

This is what they are saying about this book!

Filled with colorful and meaningful images that children will relate to and understand, The Diary of a Different Dog is a rhyming picture book meant for younger children.Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale comes “straight from the dog’s mouth.” Rugby is a lovable, loving and kind rascal who understands kids and life. His story will captivate children of all ages as well as the adults who read to them. Rugby’s personality has a magnetism that connects with children in a very special way. Written in his endearing eight year old voice, Rugby offers a convincing message to everyone who reads about him or listens to his story. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all.

Rugby has become a hero for the many children who read or had read to them The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. Now Rugby hopes to become a hero for your younger child too. This is the first book in his new series: Life with Rugby Jones.

 

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