Tag: self-esteem

Carol Dweck: Hero

Carol DweckCarol Dweck is our new hero because she really gets it! My older human sister is reading lots of things about her because she wants to be a great teacher someday. My sister told me some of the things that Carol Dweck has said and guess what? We think about a lot of things the same way. How cool is that?

Carol Dweck explains to parents and teachers that some kids who have challenges in their lives manage to succeed while others don’t.  She uses cool words that mean a lot. She says that kids who try hard and persevere have something called a growth mindset. Hmmm… I guess I have a growth mindset too!

As you know, I am very smart but Carol Dweck is way smarter than I am. That’s because I am just a dog and she is a doctor. She said, “…when students had more of a growth mindset, they held the view that talents and abilities could be developed and that challenges were the way to do it.

Carol Dweck

Learning something new, something hard, sticking to things—that’s how you get smarter.” The cool thing is that I have said the same kinds of things about how I got so smart here on my blog and in my books. Well, except that I have said them in a way that kids understand.  How cool is that? For an example, in The “Tail” of Rugby Jones: A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability, I said, “There are so many things that make people and animals different and that is a good thing. Just remember that you might need something like Zoomie to help you work hard and remind you to believe in yourself.”

My human mom taught me that, it’s so important to let children understand that failure is okay. Failure and mistakes are crucial for success to become a reality. Children need their parents to believe in their abilities, to be proud of their efforts and teach them how to learn from the negative events in their lives.

So now you know why Carol Dweck is our new hero. She gets it!

Rugby Jones’ Amazon Books

 My name is Rugby Jones and my books are available on Amazon and the MP3 audio is available right here, right now! How cool is that? I know you think it’s cool too. Guess what? All of my books have received these special awards and that makes me very happy!

I sure hope that you want to get either The “Tail” of Rugby Jones or The Diary of a Different Dog a.k.a. Rugby Jones for a special kid or kids in your life. It’s very important that that I fill you in on a few things about these books so that you will know which one or maybe ones will be best for you.

The first of my books is The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. 

This is what they are saying about it:

Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale is told by Rugby who is a lovable and loving dog with great big ears and a magnetic personality. He tells his story of overcoming adversity with the wit and wisdom of an eight-year-old. Rugby’s antics and blunders will amuse and uplift the reader. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all. Rugby has an opinion about everything and what comes out of his mouth may surprise you!

This book is in color and the images are amazing if I do say so myself. That’s why it is more expensive than the black and white version. It is $18.93 and if you click here you will be taken to Amazon.

We wanted to make the book available at a lower price so the next one is the same book (with a slightly different title) The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability The Wit & Wisdom of  a Lovable Dog with a Disability. (That’s me and you ill see why I am lovable when you read it!) This book is available on Amazon for only $6.92. Click here.

There is also a Kindle version of The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability and it is only $3.49. Try not to be confused with so many choices. Okay? click here

There is also an MP3 audio of  The “Tail” of of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey  from Disability to Ability and that is available right here. Guess what? Parents love it because they get about an hour of guilt free quiet time as their child or children listen to me talk about kindness, acceptance, diversity and working hard! Click here because the price is only$4.97.

The Diary of a Different Dog – Rugby Jones is also available on Amazon! How cool is that? This book won some pretty cool awards if I do say so myself!For the paperback version click here. And for the Kindle Version click here

This is what they are saying about this book!

Filled with colorful and meaningful images that children will relate to and understand, The Diary of a Different Dog is a rhyming picture book meant for younger children.Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale comes “straight from the dog’s mouth.” Rugby is a lovable, loving and kind rascal who understands kids and life. His story will captivate children of all ages as well as the adults who read to them. Rugby’s personality has a magnetism that connects with children in a very special way. Written in his endearing eight year old voice, Rugby offers a convincing message to everyone who reads about him or listens to his story. He offers understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference or adversity. Rugby teaches the all-important lesson that kindness and acceptance shown by children and adults alike will make the world a better place for all.

Rugby has become a hero for the many children who read or had read to them The “Tail” of Rugby Jones – A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability. Now Rugby hopes to become a hero for your younger child too. This is the first book in his new series: Life with Rugby Jones.

 

Self-Esteem Building – Part Two

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Self-Esteem matters! If this were your child or a child you care about, how would you handle things with him? Well, I don’t have kids but I sure know about them and I know how kids like this often become targets of bullying.

If you ask yourself what do you want for him or her? Be realistic okay? If your kid is short, he won’t usually become tall overnight. If he wears glasses or needs some other type of assistance, that isn’t likely to change. There isn’t any point in telling a kid that he or she is perfect because they know differently. What’s important is to do things that help a child believe in himself or herself. Their self-esteem matters and kids need to understand that the way they think about themselves is the same way that others think about them.

Self-Esteem

If you look at the picture above, you see a kid who is facing two potential bullies. Instead of the boy showing them a fearful and easily bullied kid, he is facing them and saying “Hi.” Why? Because he has a realistic knowledge of who he is and what he is about. He may not be the most popular or the most athletic or the best looking but he is who he is! He likes himself and others see that. When kids like themselves the world sees them differently!

Spend some time where parents and kids gather. You’ll hear all kinds of comments from parents like, “You were wonderful. You did the best. No one else did as well as you did.” That seems like a good thing… right?

New studies are showing that exaggerated or overstated praise can back fire especially with children with low self-esteem. What the studies found was that kids with low self-esteem were more likely to choose easier tasks after they received inflated statements of praise. Often they will be afraid of failure because so much is expected of them. The opposite is true when parents say things like, “You worked hard.”

…Researchers often refer to this constructive encouragement as process praise. Letting the child know exactly what they are doing well and noticing the detail of their work is critical. Trading ambiguous praise for detail-oriented questions lets the child know that their work is interest-worthy. When children are explicitly told what they are doing right (e.g. “good job at cleaning up the blocks”), it’s more effective in changing future behaviors and promoting improved effort. *

Maybe it’s time to think about how you praise your child!

Building Children’s Self-Esteem: Part One

building children's self-esteemWhat if you knew the secret to building children’s self-esteem? You could change the world s of all of the children  who suffer from poor self-esteem. You could bully-proof children who have been targeted by bullies. You could help children be more successful in life!

Here’s the thing and I get it. I do know the secret to building children’s self-esteem and it starts when kids are little.  You may be thinking, “What does a dog know?” Well, I’ll tell you.  If you want to help little kids understand that they should be respected and valued, you need to help them understand that everyone is different and that’s okay. They need to understand that being different isn’t a bad thing. In fact being different can be a very good thing. But you need to do it in a fun way and that’s where I come in.

Building Children’s Self-Esteem

Kids love animals especially dogs. I love kids and kids listen to me because I think the same way that they think. I just have more personal experiences that taught me a lot! Plus, I don’t lecture them!  We all know that kids tune out when they get lectured… right? They also tune out when parents tell them how wonderful they are at everything they do and say… every minute of every day.

Look at the picture above.  What do you see? Maybe you will say, “I see the reflection of a happy kid and yours truly smiling.” Well look again! Look at the back of the boy looking at the reflection. He is small. His shoulders are down and his hands are down. He isn’t anything like his reflection. He sees himself quite differently because we both talked. We both listened. We both learned about each other and then he began to get my message. He understood what I meant about building children’s self-esteem. He understood how to begin to build his own self esteem.Building Children's Self-Esteem

Look at the second picture. When we first got together, that is what his reflection looked like. He was sad and he had been bullied. He didn’t see himself as special or of value.

He told me that his parents tell him all the time that he is handsome and talented and that kids will figure that out.  Then he told me that he doesn’t believe his parents because they complement him all the time. He told me that they never tell him anything except how perfect he is. He was confused because he heard one thing at home and something different at school.

To be continued.

Disabled Children’s Hero: Rugby Jones

disabled children's heroDisabled Children’s Hero A.K.A. Rugby Jones is a lovable and loving dog with great big ears, no tail and a magnetic personality.

He tells his story about overcoming adversity with the wit and wisdom of an eight year-old. Rugby’s antics and blunders will amuse and uplift you. He has an opinion about everything and what comes out of his mouth may surprise you!

Based on a true story, this heartwarming tale comes “straight from the dog’s mouth.” This rascal understands kids and life. His story will captivate children of all ages. And it will offer understanding and encouragement to those who must deal with and overcome any difference, disability or adversity.

Disabled Children’s Hero: Rugby Jones

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As Rugby says, “Do you want to know what I think? Well, I’ll tell you. I think people like my books and my story because they have a message. I know what that message is because it is my message and I get it across in a cool way! It’s all about helping kids understand that they need to believe that they are great even if they are different! In fact, they need to believe they are great BECAUSE they are different. Who wants to be just like everyone else? I sure don’t. And I bet you don’t want to be a “cookie cutter” same kind of kid either. Everyone is different in some way and we all have different abilities. That’s what makes us way cool. Don’t you agree? Some say I am a disabled children’s hero. Do you know what I think? I think I am a disabled children’s friend. In fact, I am every kid’s friend.

Guess what? The pictures are epic! Do you know what epic means? Well, I do so I’ll tell you. Epic means that they are very impressive and larger-than-life! I think they are epic because they are colorful and they get my message across in a fun way.

I am your friend Rugby Jones and don’t you ever forget it.

The new and revised version of The “Tail” of Rugby Jones: A Rascal’s Journey from Disability to Ability and The Diary of a Different Dog are on Amazon and soon to be at other retailers.

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